These are strange, anxiety-provoking times. That’s true no matter where one lives or where one sits on the political spectrum; for all of us, it’s upsetting and confusing.
If it feels that way for adults, just imagine what it’s like for children who catch snatches of information and conversations they don’t really understand. That’s why it’s really, really important that parents talk to their children about what is going on in our country and our world. It’s important for two reasons: …
My son died 20 years ago last month.
We did our remembrance of him on his birthday earlier in the month, and that brought various condolences from various people. We are so sorry, they said. It must be so sad.
Although the condolences came from kindness, they felt off somehow. It’s not so much about sadness anymore. After 20 years, it’s different.
While Aidan was still alive, after he was diagnosed with a severe, life-limiting disability, I wrote something for Sesame Street Parents Magazine that our priest read at Aidan’s funeral:
All of us, at some point in our lives, are faced with something we didn’t expect and never wanted. What defines us, I think, is what we do with those things that life gives us. Very often, whether we are cursed or blessed is a matter of choosing.
Aidan’s family chooses to be blessed.
That’s how I feel: blessed. …
Last week, an 11-month-old baby in our community accidentally fell into the bathtub.
The family called 9-1-1 and while they waited for an ambulance, nearby workers from local power company Eversource stopped to help. The baby was not breathing, and her lips were turning blue.
The Eversource workers administered CPR, and the baby started breathing. She recovered at Boston Children’s Hospital and ultimately survived because of the efforts of CPR-trained passersby.
Accidents can happen at any time and place. We never know when we will need the help of a stranger. Or when we will be put in a position to help. Please consider taking a lifesaving CPR class.
Find out more about the Boston Children’s Hospital Basic Life Support program.
The explosion of tech and screens into the lives of children is outrageously obvious to me as a pediatrician. Besides the fact that most kids and parents seem to be attached to a phone or tablet when I enter the exam room, when I ask questions about how kids spend their days (and nights), screens seem to be part of everything.
You’d think that I’d get questions from parents about screen time and about how best to use devices with their kids. But I don’t. Like, never.
This is weird, because I feel like I get asked about everything else that touches a child or is part of a child’s life. I think I have been asked every possible question about food, sleep, toys, school, after-school activities, playgroups, strollers, summer camps, shoes, coats, soaps, pajamas… I’m not kidding; I get asked about everything.
But not screens. I used to get asked about when kids should get a cell phone, but I don’t even get that question anymore.
I figure that there are three possible reasons. It could be that screens are so commonplace that people don’t think to ask about them. It’s certainly true that they are becoming ubiquitous; currently two-thirds of US adults have a smartphone, a proportion which has nearly doubled since 2011.
Yeah, but shoes are even more ubiquitous and I get questions about those. So maybe not.
It could also be that parents feel like they know everything there is to know and don’t need my advice. I think that’s probably the case for some parents — although given how new some of this technology is, I am impressed with their knowledge.
I think that the most likely reason is that parents are afraid of what I’ll say. They think that I will tell them to turn off all the screens or take the screens away from their kids. And that would be such a drag, right? Because let’s face it, screens are pretty great. Besides the fact that smartphones, tablets, computers and other devices are remarkably useful, they are remarkably entertaining, too. And we all know that happy kids make for happy parents. …