My 13-year-old is obsessed with the card game ‘Magic the Gathering’, what should I do?

Michael Rich, MD, MPH, is Children’s Hospital Boston’s media expert and director of Children’s Center on Media and Child Health. Take a look at his blog archive or follow him on Twitter @CMCH_Boston

Michael RichQ: My 13-year-old son is obsessed with the card game Magic the Gathering (MTG) and occasional video games. Computer time is limited to 45 minutes/weekend day and he rarely plays MTG. However, when he does his homework, he often drifts over to MTG websites and other sites unrelated to homework. He is constantly plotting his next MTG deck and thinking about what cards he can sell to make a profit. He has trouble focusing on the task at hand, whether it’s a school lesson or a karate lesson, and it appears to me that his mind is often on MTG Strategy. I also believe that his recent three-week bout of insomnia could be related to this obsession. How can I get my son to focus on school and his other activities?

~Mind over Magic

A: Dear Mind,

First, know that it is common for children your son’s age to have an interest that grabs their attention in this way, whether it’s MTG, baseball statistics, or anything else. They may spend many hours learning the intricacies of that interest and engaging with it.

If you’re concerned that your son’s card playing is out of balance with other important life activities, here are a few ideas for addressing that issue:

Ask him to teach you how to play MTG. By expressing interest in something that’s clearly so important to him, you let him know that you respect his interests and are willing to engage in things he cares about. That can make it easier to connect, both about MTG and about other topics, by giving you some context for his interest. It also allows him to demonstrate mastery over something that is new to you.

Magic-cardsPlace the computer in a common area, if it isn’t already there. This will give the ability to monitor his computer activities and may help your son learn to regulate and direct his online homework time.

Challenge him to focus only on homework while he does his homework. Not only will the quality of his work improve, but it may even take less time to complete.

Spend time with him outside. Taking a hike or participating in another fully engaging outdoor activity with you can help create space and perspective, taking him out of a media context for a few hours or a day. Outdoor time can have many other positive health effects on attention, stress, and fitness as well.

If he’s still experiencing bouts of insomnia, there may be a larger issue at play. Try bringing him to his pediatrician and talking through possible contributors, including MTG. If sleep, schoolwork, and relationships aren’t suffering because of his focus on MTG, though, it’s likely just a normal degree of interest for a child his age.

Enjoy your media and use them wisely,

The Mediatrician®

2 thoughts on “My 13-year-old is obsessed with the card game ‘Magic the Gathering’, what should I do?

  1. Mind over Magic?? You clearly do not understand the game if you think the two are unrealated

  2. I started playing MTG back in 1993 when the game had recently come out. I was six years old (now 26). MTG is a fantastic thing for someone his age. MTG helps the players in plenty of educational ways.

    It helped me when I was younger to form a vocabulary of words that I wouldn’t normally see for a while. My math skills improved as I was keeping track of my health, my opponents health, my library size, my mana pool, creature attack/defenses for all of those that were in play.

    You mentioned that he was looking around for the cards that he could sell, which I did as well and it surely helps young people to learn some economics first hand. MTC should be a very social thing. Going to the stores and making friends, then making it to tournaments and meeting a ton of people from around the country.

    Finally, the critical thinking that is involved with building decks and then playing in actual matches is immense. In chess there are only six pieces, but in MTG there are millions upon millions of combinations that you need to know and understand. You need to pay attention to your opponents actions and be able to read them (if they have cards still in their hand and mana to clearly play some of them, what are they hiding, what have they played so far that would help you to understand what is in their hand).

    Like with anything in life, MTG can be addicting. If he is loosing sleep over MTG, if it’s hurting his friendships that he has had outside of MTG, if his diet is suffering, then these are problems. From my experience, people that form addictions over one thing could easily form an addiction over almost any interest. Do what you can to stop it from getting to that point, but let him embrace it as it is a very healthy hobby to engage in.

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